How will you show yourself some surefire self-compassion in the new year?

Whelp folks, go ahead and pat yourself on the back, we made it! The year was full of ups and downs for all of us, but here we are, facing the new year, hoping for the best. I hope you don’t mind me saying, but I think we are a brave lot. Since this is the final post of the year, it’ll also be my final ‘question’ post. In trying to think of today’s topic, I was pondering the new year’s resolution tradition. I’ll admit, when I was healthier and more able bodied this was a great tool for keeping me on track, but these days life is far too unpredictable to be able to plan much of anything. My plans now are more like buying more jammies with a Christmas gift card, than Self, Career, and Relationship goals. So, instead of asking what you’re going to change about yourself, I’d like to ask, what is something you did last year that filled your heart with goodness that you’d like to do again this year? In other words, how will you show yourself some surefire self-compassion in the new year? I encourage you to write it down, pin it up, put it in your phone notes, make a cell phone wallpaper out of it…whatever it takes. And if you feel like sharing I’d love to hear yours in the comments.

In keeping with the custom of these question posts I’ll go ahead and answer my own question. Mine seems rather simplistic but I can assure it’s taken some work. I’m going to continue to focus on the goodness in my life, daily, and try to let the other stuff roll off. Having said that it immediately brings to mind something that I’m still feeling guilty about that I’m going to try to let go with this post. This year I was approached a few times from people asking if I wanted to spend more time advocating in the chronic illness community. I know that those who advocate actively play a vital roll in spreading awareness for several of the invisible illnesses I have and I’m eternally grateful they are out there. Unfortunately, it doesn’t fit in with my self-compassion goal of focusing on goodness in life to help me achieve my best health possible. So, in staying true to myself, I’ve had to say no to them and the caretaker in me is so not pleased, but I’m letting that guilt go in…3, 2, 1…now.  I do try though, in my own way, I try to maintain a balance of happiness, awareness, and kindness.

Thank you for stopping in today, and any of the other days that you have stopped by. I appreciate it! I really do. I know you have a choice of how you will spend each moment of your life and I appreciate you choose to pop by. A few more doodles below, including my top nine from Instagram. Wishing you a new year filled with an overwhelming abundance of goodness. See you in the new year! 2020, can you believe it?!

15 thoughts on “How will you show yourself some surefire self-compassion in the new year?

    1. Definitely, me too! I’m so incredibly thankful for their research and willingness to share findings. Mental exertion, especially upsetting or trying, crashes me so hard and so fast these days. It’s a big adjustment because I never had that experience previously. I could read, absorb, and relay for days. Now I’m like a glob of goo. 🦠 I’ve often wondered if MECFS attacks different places on different people because some are still so mentally sharp, and capable of much more. Thank you for stopping by! Hoping today brings you goodness. 🌸

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    1. Let me start by saying that I remember replying to your comment… I must have forgotten to press reply?…I’m really not sure. :/

      I love the advice. Easier said than done but 100% worth aiming for. After five years I still feel like my driven nature pushed me into illness. Doesn’t seem to matter how I reframe it, it’s not so pretty. Wishing you a less judge-mental year. 🌺

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  1. I’m sorry I didn’t get to comment on this before hence I’m a little late, but I love this post. The focus on 2020 really should be for us all to be a little kinder to ourselves. We can be our own worst enemies, often without even realising it. Guilt is a big one for me that still stumps me because I’m just not sure how to get past it. If I’m not feeling guilty, I don’t feel like I can be a good person. So I have to feel guilty for taking time out, I have to keep doing stuff to earn pennies and feel even sicker for it, I have to keep putting up with people that make me feel like crap, I have to keep pushing when I’m too poorly… guilt can be incredibly pervasive. Even buying something nice that you want but isn’t ‘needed’ triggers guilt. Smiling, even. If we can overcome guilt this year that would be huge. I’m just not quite sure how.. Love the art as always, Mishka. Very on-season with the snow men and polar bear. I think I’d like the little ducky as my phone or laptop wallpaper, he’s so sweet!
    Wishing you a happier, healthier (we can still wish!) and brighter New Year, one where you show yourself compassion without the guilt.
    Caz xxxx

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    1. Thank you, Caz, for stopping in and also for sharing that you too deal with the ‘shoulds’. It can be such a niggling feeling. When I was first sick it was unbearable, literally. Over time and with lots of self compassion I’ve learned to let a lot of it go, but it’s always lurking. Some people are able to be so incredibly active with awareness, but it just upsets me mostly. Honestly I’ve been told repeatedly not to watch the news because it breaks my heart. Human injustice is heart wrenching and there’s far, far too much in the MECFS community. The saddest part of all is that so many are absolutely alone withering on the vine. Ugh. And it feels selfish to say I can’t help, in essence I can’t help them. But there’s a balance I suppose as I have to look after my health too. Emotional turmoil sends my health spiraling in negative ways, proven in lab work. So I do my best, I think we all do. Today I must continue to prepare to see a new GP this week. Luckily I’ve had a month to get my ppwk together, but I’m still not totally ready. 😬 Wishing you all the best, and more. 💙🌺

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      1. Absolutely, you do need to look after your own health too. Where you can’t help the grander scheme of things (out of your control) you can help your health (where the element of stress and emotional turmoil can be controlled some some degree). That’s not selfish at all, though we often feel doing what’s right for ourselves is selfish in part I think because that’s the way culture has shaped us. Wishing you all the best with the new GP – I hope he/she is a good egg! xx

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  2. Susie Ray

    I really love this idea so much. I really want to work on affirmations and showing myself compassion because I really beat myself up sometimes and it can be so hard to try remind ourselves that it where we are is okay! Advocating for our illnesses is a tough one I know, it is so important but it is hard because I hate talking about it sometimes because – who wants to focus on it right? ahah but anyway I hope you are well. Wishing you a wonderful year ahead ❤ lots of love!

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    1. Thank you, Susie🌸 for stopping in and sharing your wisdom. It’s challenging for everyone I think but especially when you’re chronically ill and haggling with your body to live your best life. And you’re so right, it’s difficult to not focus on it but still make it a top priority not to make yourself worse. But each day we do it! 💪 So proud of all of us warriors! 💕 Wishing you a wonderful new year too! 💙

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